Internet Love Stories

By Shelley Lowery

Online dating is the single most used service on the Internet. It is used far more frequently than online shopping or online banking. All of the research combined that is done online doesn’t hold a candle to the frequency with which online dating services are used.

There are no statistics to prove it, but it’s likely that there are millions more online dates every day than real world dates. America is a mobile society and the divorce rate is in the stratosphere. It is no wonder that there are more and more single parents out there that are participating in online dating.

Mothers and fathers who find themselves as single parents are faced with a whole set of problems that they never dreamed existed and are certainly not prepared to deal with. They quickly find that children take time and energy and that when one parent is gone, the entire burden is theirs alone to bear. They also find out rather quickly that baby sitters don’t work cheap. The single parent is faced with a nonexistent social life and loneliness for adult companionship like they never believed possible.

Before they leave for their work day, they must see to the needs of their children and provide care for them. After work, every bit of their remaining energy is used to feed and bathe the children and get them into bed. There isn’t much time and certainly no energy left to pursue a social life of their own, even if they could afford the price of a baby sitter. The solution that most of them find is to simply boot up their computers and join an online dating service.

The things that are important for these single parents to remember is (1) that the same honest-is-the-best-policy that they teach their children is also the best one for them to live by themselves when dating online and (2) that the same safety precautions that they use to protect their children in the real world are the same ones that need to be employed for themselves and their children when dating online.

When a single parent posts their profile online, they need to make it clear that they have children. Springing the fact of kids after a relationship has begun to develop is not honest and it is a sure show stopper. A person who is a single parent needs to say so up front. There are other single parents out there and there are those who will accept children in a relationship.

The single parent shouldn’t spend time whining to an online dating partner about the ex-spouse who left them in the position of being a single parent. The fact that you have kids, that you love your kids and that they come first with you is enough information.

Remember, when dating online, a single parent is the only person standing between his or her children and the child predators on the Internet who would do them harm. Do not ever give out information that would allow children to be
identified and this includes their names as well as the names of the schools or day cares which they attend.

Online dating can be a real benefit for single parents. It is about the only way that they can engage in conversation with other adults after the children are tucked in for the night. And, who knows, it is very possible that a single parent can find love online.
About the Author

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By Christina Rowe

I am sure you have heard the Carrie Underwood song of the same name by now. Most of us who have been cheated on have probably fantasized about keying our ex’s car or inflicting some of the damage Carrie sings about in her hit song. As difficult as it may be, you must control your emotions.

The type of out of control behavior depicted in the song will only end you up in jail with a retraining order issued against you. So what can we do to move through the pain and anguish of being betrayed by our spouse? Do spouses who cheat care? Do they harden themselves so that they can ignore the pain they’re causing? If they could feel the actual pain they are causing would it change them? Would they care then?

Most of us who have been the victims of adultery have been forced to ponder these questions. We look at spouses who we lovingly trusted, people with whom we’ve had children, and we see them walking away, blind to the tears, and deaf to the sobs of others. It is as if they have found a way to separate themselves from all that led up to now, and cut themselves off from the past.

As we ponder, we ask why? A woman asks: Was I not good enough? A man might ask: Was I not caring enough? Either might want to know: Did I keep up my end? Was I supportive enough? We blame ourselves, and examine every small detail. Like detectives we search for clues, leads, and turning points. We ask the questions of a spouse who is no longer there, and in the end we are left right back where we started: Why? Why would

There are no easy answers, but there are guilty feelings that can and should be dealt with. First, remember: you did nothing to make your spouse stray. This was their choice, freely made. There is always a moment (or moments) when a responsible person can say: No. The responsibility is theirs, and for those of us they abandoned the question is not: Why did my marriage break up? Instead we begin with: Did a perfectly loyal, loving spouse really suddenly turn into a cheater? It’s likely that the answer is: No. Which leads us to the question: Are there signs that we ignored?

I searched my soul, and my memory, and found that the answer was: Yes. The indications were there, and I ignored them. I had evidence that my husband was not the wonderful, trusting man I had made him out to be. I put on my rose-colored glasses, and saw him only through those lenses, filtering out anything that might threaten my family and me.

After the marriage is over, it’s often a good idea to look back and learn. This shouldn’t be the kind of thinking that only leads to you torturing yourself. If you’re still at that stage, don’t dwell on the past. Only do this when you are far enough past the shock and the wreckage that you can think of it as an object lesson, and want to avoid the same traps next time.

About The Author:

Christina Rowe is the author of the new book Seven Secrets To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know. Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and heartache during your divorce and visit the link for your free chapter of the book.

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