Internet Love Stories

By Nicholl McGuire

The following tips will help you with your quest to find
someone who is right for you online.

1. When reviewing the photos of people on social networking
sites, be sure that you don’t pick someone who is seen in all
his or her photographs smiling with their mouth closed, wearing
a hat, sitting down, wearing an unusual amount of makeup, or
standing behind someone or something. This person is obviously
trying to cover up their hidden flaws. They may be balding,
obese or very short, have terrible looking teeth, covering up
birthmarks, freckles or pimples or they may have some kind of
handicap.

2. If you should find someone who has done this in all there
photographs, ask them in your email to send you a recent photo.
Now he or she may not have one, but give them enough time to get
one taken. If they are always coming up with an excuse, move on.

3. Don’t rush to ask for phone numbers. If you find that you
are anxious to speak to this person over the phone, think about
why. Is it because you haven’t had sex in awhile, you are just
curious about his or her voice, and/or he or she is saying all
the right things in their emails? Whatever the case, write as
much as you like until you are comfortable with the answers you
are receiving and that you honestly care for this person. (If
they seem as if they are putting you off, not responding to
email in a timely manner or answering all emails with little or
no detail, move on.)

4. Be sure when you are writing your first emails to them that
you aren’t getting “too serious”. Don’t get into your desires of
being married and having children right away or writing a
history of every Tom, Dick and Harry or Jane, Mary and Tina who
ever broke your heart. Find out what their likes and dislikes
are, what they enjoy doing daily, where do they like to go, what
kind of hobbies they love, how do they feel about their job,
family, and friends. In later emails, you may want to bring up
the serious topics in such a way that would not make them run
for the border. For instance, when asking about a mental
condition, you may say that you read somewhere how most mental
illnesses are genetic and that you found out from a friend that
he is bipolar (don’t make up a lie, but use a true case.) Do
they know of anyone who has suffered from the disease?

5. Don’t forget to spell check your emails. Many educated
people who can spell well, frown at emails that are riddled with
spelling and grammatical errors. Be sure to read over what you
write aloud. This helps when you are trying to find out if you
communicated your point well.

6. There is no set time on how long you email back and fourth,
so don’t set a limit of how long you will do it. He or she may
have other email pals or gals, but don’t let that push you to
ask for a date sooner rather than later. Sometimes those other
email pals or gals are in a rush to meet and then ultimately
hang themselves being disrespectful, pushy, lying, cheating etc.
It is better to play the best friend or confidante role to get
what you want long term rather than the one night stand.

7. Remember in your emails to acknowledge birthdays and other
holidays. Ask about family and friends by name (if you know
any.) It makes the receiver feel like you have been thinking
about them and sincerely care.

8. When he or she feels like they can trust you, you may want
to send them something special in the mail. Reassure them that
you wouldn’t surprise them on their job or at home, but that you
just want to send them something nice. If they aren’t ready to
share their address, don’t take it personal just say, “Maybe
next time.”

9. Now that you have survived the email relationship, you may
want to ask for that all important date. Start the email off by
saying how much you enjoyed writing, but you would like to
exchange phone numbers. If they say no, be patient, at least you
know that they will be thinking about it. The reason why it is a
big deal for some people is they feel if they talk with you on
the phone that eventually it will lead to something more and if
they aren’t ready they don’t want to lead you on.

10. When you set up the date, time and meeting place, be sure
to leave a note in your apartment and tell someone close to you
where you will be going. Better yet, if you can have someone at
your home to take a photo of the two of you or glance at the
license plate of his or her vehicle, you will be playing it
safe.

About The Author:

Nicholl McGuire, is a Freelance Writer at
http://www.myspace.com/howtobooks

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