14
June
2010

It’s a cold rainy Sunday afternoon as I sit inside the warm coffee shop, slowly taking sips of my three dollar latte while waiting.

The anxiety is building up and I can feel the butterflies fluttering about in my stomach. Every second of waiting feels like an eternity. Where the heck is she?I had met her on the popular online dating site Plenty of Fish. I had finally hit pay dirt after messaging twenty other prospects and failing miserably. The initial email exchange was flirty and well received by both parties. There was definitely some initial attraction and not to mention, that her two well chosen profile pictures revealed her to be quite a knock-out.

I hear the coffee shop door swing open. My head quickly turns to see who it is. Dang, it’s not her. She is running about ten minutes late now and I’m sitting here all by myself, stewing in anxiety, which is enough to make my palms sweat. This is my first time ever meeting someone from an online dating site, after all, shouldn’t it be normal to be so nervous?As I take another sip from my mug, I glance up to see another woman walk through the door. Oh my god, that’s her!

She glances around the shop until her eyes finally reach mine. She recognizes me and walks over, immediately apologizing for being so late. As we make our formal introductions she orders a coffee and sits down across from me. Little do I know, the gauntlet is about to begin. I’ve barely said more than several words to her and she is already giving me the twenty questions routine. I’m stuttering trying to answer each one, but the barrage of inquiries keep on coming: What do you do for work? Where do you live? Where are you from? How many dates have you gone on? How much do you make? Do you like cats or dogs? etc.

Ack! This is terrible. It’s like a job interview, except I don’t get to ask any questions in return. Any attempts I make to turn the conversation towards her is quickly rebutted. She offers no information about herself. The entire situation, to say the least, is incredibly awkward. Then out of nowhere, she quiets down and glares at me with a menacing snarl. “Are you staring at my breasts?” she asks.

Oh crap! In my attempt to deliver answers to her ongoing questions, my eyes had drifted down from her face and yes, I was indeed, staring directly into her cleavage. Not that I did this on purpose, but I am a man and as most men can attest, we have tendencies to let our eyes wander from time to time. I am guilty as charged, so I apologize and explain that I didn’t mean it. She is still glaring at me with a stern expression on her face and says, “You’re not the one.”

With that final statement she gets up and walks out the door. The date hadn’t lasted more than twenty minutes and I managed to blow the whole thing. Although, I suppose the first time meeting someone online is usually an awkward experience. I can’t help but feel that with a few more dates and a little more practice, I’ll eventually find someone who clicks. After all, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

About the Author:Matt Savage is a writer and blog author who specializes in dating and online dating topics. He also publishes the Plenty of Fish Dating Tips blog which focuses on research, analysis and tips for the dating scene.

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31
May
2010

One after noon I was working. He walked in through the door. I couldn’t take my eyes of him. He looked so Innocent and such gentlemen. We talked , I liked him so much , I couldn’t believe that I would like a guy from the first time I meet them.

He used to attend for treatment twice a week. I could not wait to see him every time. He was so nice to me. In time i thought i had found what i was looking for . He had every thing i wanted in a guy .

For almost two years i was getting to know him , he was such a gentlemen. I loved him so much but i never told him. I kept it as a secret for so long. My heart used to beat so fast when i used to See him. I used to miss him when he wasn’t around.

One day he phoned work and he asked me to send him a photo of a piercing that i had done for him to his email , because he wanted to know how it looked. I took his email and i told him i’ll send it to him.

Later on at night i went online i sent him an email address , he replied and we ended up chatting. I was feeling so, so happy. We chatted until 2:00 am .

Can  i ask you if you like any one he asked

“Yes i do but  he doesn’t like me ” I replied

How can he not like you , you are so beautiful he said

No I’m not , i don’t really  know what to do  i can’t tell him how  i feel , because he’s too good for me  i said

you should tel him please , I’m sure he will tel that he likes you back he said

He knew that i was talking about him ..( i told him that i couldn’t tell him what his name was but his name starts with A. )

I told him that i didn’t know how to tell the guy that i likes him, and that i was afraid. He told me not to be afraid .

I told him that i would practice on him , and he can tell me of any changes i should make so i wrote :

“Dear. A..

I have never done this before, i don’t really know how to do it or what to say . so please don’t mind if i sound funny

Since the day i have met you , i could not stop thinking of you even for a minute, when you are around i smile and it feels that i have the whole world, when your not around , i think of you  , i wonder where you are , i miss you and wish that you could come sooner.

You have changed my life , if you have some one in you r life , then she is so lucky. I wish that i could be with you , I just fall for you day by day. i don’ t know what to do

Why is life so beautiful when your around? i can’t tel you how much you mean to me through words, i cant find a word to describe how i feel. you make me so happy ,you make me smile and you make my day a better day..

I feel so close to you , I feel so much love and care for you. A i think i love you….”

Is it too much? I asked him.

You know what i would say if i was A..? He asked me

My heart was beating so fast,  I was confused.

I am not too sure , what would you say? i asked him

I would say that i love you too… He replied

When he said this to me i couldn’t type for  minutes , i was just staring at the screen , Oh my god , oh my god , oh my god i think  i repeated this word 100 times, he was nudging me , my heart almost stopped of happiness, i couldn’t believe what i had read.

The he said that he wanted to see me ,I thought i was dreaming. It was too good to be real… oh my god

I was crying of happiness .I cant describe how much i loved this guy.

This conversation was on a Friday night , i saw him on Monday morning, I couldn’t believe it , He asked me to be with him, i said yes then he hugged me and kissed my forehead.

Being in his arms, wow, it was heaven for me, it was the first time that i had felt so much love , i was in love already. I never used to believe in love, being with him , thatch all i wanted , i didn’t need any thing or any one else, my word was complete.

After two years of liking him i ended up with him. We went out for 6 months maybe more i don’t really remember,

He had so much respect for me . i was deeper in love day by day.

I used to miss him even though he was next to me , I used to cry , my heart was hurting because i could feel so much love for him..

One day i asked him if he would ever leave me , he said he will never.

One day we had a small argument, It was over a very little thing. it is very normal to have an argument when your in a relationship , because if the love is very strong , it will survive , in fact you appreciate what you have more.

I was only angry for a bit, later on of the day  i contacted him, He wouldn’t answer my phone calls,

I messaged him for a week and tried calling,

Baby please call me back , im worried  whats the matter with you , why don’t you talk to me , im sorry , i’m very sorry my love , please call me back ,i miss YOUR voice , i miss you .  i was telling him for almost two weeks.

He messaged me after two weeks ” come online ” that’s all it said on the message

I was so happy ,i swiped my tears and quickly went online.

Hey babi whats wrong , I typed to him

We spoke for a bit then he said it’s over and that he wished me all the best,

I thought i was going to die, i cant believe how much i cried.

He can’t break up with me over a lil reason , why , we can get though it , this is nothing

Why babe, please don’t do this , baby i love you , i don’t think i can live with out you , i need you , i told him

no matter how much i begged he just said no no no no

Whats the reason babe , are you married? I asked him as a joke.

Yes , he said i’m married and I have two kids he said.

Oh my god I was so confused, i thought he was joking, Until I realized that he was serious.

The pain that I went though I cant not describe, I almost died , I am still sick , I ended with depression and getting panic attacks always faint and just always too quiet.

I had lost every thing.  I left my job , because I saw him every where , I couldn’t his memories where every where.

It has been a year now, I have cried a river, my heart is so broken, My heart feels like fire its burning so much i’m so much pain.

I love him so much still . Every day I go to work, I think of him, driving home I think of him. I stare a his name for hours. I have had so many other guys asking me out , i’ve tried to move on , nohing and no one compares to him . I cant do do it. I just cant move on . I can’t, I love him and I can’t do it.

I’m so in love.

I don’t have him , but he wil always be in m heart, I will love him for ever,

I’m like a crazy person now, I think every single person I see , I imagine that it is him

I saw him twice after breaking up. He drove past me and walked pass me and he just pretends that he doesnt know me . He sends me a few emails and tells me to move on and that I always look happy. He judges me by the way I look. He doesn’t know what’s going though my heart and what pain I go through. I have told him that I hated him a few times but im crazy over him.I go to a river we went together and cry there for hours. Why does he judge me by the way I look.

If I wasnt still in love with him I would have moved on the next day.

He likes hurting me , He sends me an offline message once every four to 6 months just two lines saying “ Hi how are you” when I see the offline , I cry and cry and reply so much to him he never replies back and then after another 3 months another message I get from him , Hi how are you and doesnt reply to me.

After so long I still cry thinking of him, I was a strong person before I met him, his love has made me so weak.
I know it is wrong to love him, he is married but I feel so sick and lost without him.

I don’t know what to do.

I just love him more and more each day and miss him always.

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