They admired and respected the individual
qualities within each other. In the months ahead, after sharing
countless hours getting to know each other, and building and sharing
wonderful memories, and becoming confidantes, they decided this
friendship was worth going further and fell in love and became lovers.
They knew each others most intimate secrets, and shared their lives both
as individuals and as a couple. There were never any expectations on
either part, and so everything they shared kinda just fell into place as
it was meant to be. They taught each other many new things and helped
each other when days were blue... whether it be a shoulder to lean on,
an ear to listen, or a hug when needed...they did this for each other
without judgement or pity. But with true believing and understanding and
acceptance for the people they each were.
They made everything they did together fun...whether it be going to the
grocery store, out to dinner, a movie, fishing with gummi worms, or just
hanging out doing nothing. They knew after a year that they were meant
to be soulmates, to be together, and they did this with unspoken
words....with just little things unsaid, their eyes, their hearts, their
belief in each other, commitment, loyalty, honesty, love, trust.....They
shared many of the same ideas and beliefs, but yet remained their own
separate people with ideas of their own. They believed in best friends
to the end...
Sounds like a fairy tale yes???? Many people come and go in a person's
life, but their will always be that 1 someone who will make the
The story you just read is true. Online relationships through personal
ads can work. Some just don't have happy endings. MY story to you is one
of those without a happy ending, but it has meaning and understanding
from the heart.
You see.....1 year and 3 weeks after myself and this wonderful man met,
he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. We were engaged to be married. He
was 29, I was 37, he died on July 28th, 1999, 9 weeks after being
diagnosed. But not before we promised each other to go on.....myself
after his death, and him in heaven. I am where I am today because of
him, and he left this earth with a peace of mind that he had finally
found true love . He accepted his dying with grace, dignity, pride, and
our strength together. We did remain best friends to the end. And in the
end i promised him I wouldn't be afraid to move forward and love again,
as he so wished for me to do. And he promised me he would become my
guardian angel and watch over me.
In the short time we were together, he taught me many things. We had
this whole wonderful life planned out. He was raised in a construction
family, and he helped me get into the construction business only 3 weeks
before he was diagnosed. We were going to do this together. He was going
to teach me what i needed to know, and then we were going to start our
own business in Colorado where his 2 small daughters lived.
One month after his death, I was having an extremely hard day dealing
with everything that had been going on in my life...I did remain in
construction because i promised him I would continue to give it my best
shot. Well, on this particular day, my emotions were running wild, and I
was still in grief counselling, and nothing seemed to be going right.
After work, and I must tell you, I almost
quit that day... I went to the cemetery here where he is laid to rest. I
cried and cried, and asked Jimmy why??? I was angry, scared,
confused.... I asked him to please...please... give me some sort of sign
that things were going to be ok... I didn't know what I really expected
The next day, I was at work , it was a
beautiful blue sky with lots of sunshine, and my job that day was to use
the concrete chipper to chip away all the excess concrete we had poured
the day before. As I was chipping... I kept thinking about my sign from
Jimmy I so desperately needed... when i happened to look down and pick
up some pieces of old concrete.... I knew right then and there that this
was my sign... I found a concrete angel - almost perfectly formed.
Needless to say.. I started to cry again....but this time a happy cry,
because i knew at that moment he truly was watching over me as my
guardian angel. The guys I was working with were truly amazed, and
dumbstruck as to why I was acting the way i was at that time. Many of
them knew Jimmy, and knew what I had been through, and when i showed
them what I had found, they too believed.
I carry my angel with me wherever I go, and even though I really don't
know whether I will stay in construction or not, I know that whatever I
decide to do, that my Jimmy will continue to watch over me. It will
forever be my strength when I need it. All I need to do is look at it to
know that I was so lucky to have found that kind of love that some
people are forever trying to find. And how lucky I am for being able to
love someone who has been so hard to say goodbye to.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story.
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